ROSEMARY ABBOTT | Culture
MAKING IT CLIQUE
Kristy Fowler, 27, is quickly discovering that making friends in Christchurch is less about introductions and more about enduring lengthy probation periods.
Fowler is currently on wait lists for three friend groups, something uniquely specific to the garden city.
“I thought it’d be as simple as ‘Hi, I’m Kristy! I just moved from Wellington,’ and suddenly I’d be invited to the weekend BBQs and social events,” she explained.
It’s been a hard road to friendship for Ms Fowler. She is still figuring out what to do with her Friday and Saturday nights since she will most certainly be alone.
“In Wellington, you could just chat to someone at a bar, and next thing you know, you’re invited to their flatwarming. Here, it’s like you need a passport and a notarized letter of intent just to get a coffee invite.”
Chad Higgins, one of Kristy’s coworkers, wasn’t surprised by her struggle. “Look, it’s Christchurch – we take our friendships seriously here,” Higgins told reporters with a shrug.
“You can’t just walk in and expect everyone to accept you overnight. At least give us some chat about Crusaders selections for next season.
“You’ve got to understand it’s hard for us to figure you out when you didn’t go to a recognisable local high school,” he said matter of factly.
Ms. Fowler meanwhile admitted she was yet to have a breakthrough in the social department.
“Ugh no. I’ve joined a pilates club and runners club. But still, it feels like there’s a five-year membership waiting period before anyone will even consider letting you into their friend circle”
“I’ve literally had friendlier conversations with the Uber drivers here. Can somebody please just invite me to their quiz night or something!?”
More to come.
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